Sex for money does not make you a prostitute. But this does
We all know that what makes a
woman a “slut” is what makes the same man a “stud”. Three things may be causing this.
Firstly, an evolutionary
programming where men prefer chaste women as proof that his child with her is
really his child.
Secondly, there is a theory that
a woman’s investment in sex means pregnancy and it’s a huge investment to give
birth and raise a child, as compared to a male orgasming
Finally, social norms also
contribute to judging men and women differently for having many partners. On
one hand men look down on women who have had many sexual partners, women look
up to men who show success with other women.
Now although there is an easy way
to check who the father is and easy ways to avoid getting pregnant, we live,
the hardcoding by nature and society cannot be just shrugged away.
So how do we, men and women, make
the most of our situation and be better off?
If we go back to the drawing
board, we can see how there are different words for the level of promiscuity.
Level 1 – Easy - a woman who
dates casually
Level 2 – Slut - a woman who is more
promiscuous or wild.
Level 3 – Prostitute - a woman
who sleeps for money with pretty much whoever is ready to pay.
What makes level three, a
prostitute, worse than other two? You may be quick to say it’s about the money.
But it’s about the knowledge that anybody doing it for money is probably doing
it with many more men.
So the bottom line is – it’s not
about why you are doing it. It’s about how much. Therefore, women when dating
should watch the number of partners (and how many times they sleep with them)
instead of worrying if they slept with them for love or money.
Money in itself does not make an
activity good or bad. It is morally neutral. Who is to say that a woman who
dates and sleeps with a man for his height, or any other attractive quality, is
morally higher than the woman who is doing the same to pay bills, save for
retirement or support her family?
How can women use to use this new
perspective to better their lives? The obvious way is to date for money, say a
monthly allowance. Here is the list of benefits divided based on two scenarios
A. You
want a relationship with your date.
1.
If he is looking for easy sex, he would not want
to spend. He will walk away and you are better for it
2.
Status quo of being a boyfriend, as opposed to
being a husband costs him, and let him be the one to ask where the relationship
is going
3.
Relationships tend to get stale fast. A man who
would otherwise get bored sleeping with the same woman in a serious
relationship, will be actively pursuing you, knowing you are not in the bag
4.
Your romantic and sexual life would be better in
a relationship where he feels insecure after scoring with you and the chase
does not end – for the good of both. The incentive to get most bang for the
buck, literally, will keep him with little gunpowder or money to pursue other
love interests. Consider it as a long
foreplay of relationships where you have literally tied him to a marriage like
commitment by naming the relationship a casual arrangement of sorts
B. You
don’t want the relationship
1.
If you don’t want a relationship with him
because you are looking for something else, but he would be a good friend with
benefits, why not get your needs met and also compensated while you wait for
the “one”?
2.
Besides the compensation, this could be a more
stable “relationship” where you don’t have to find new men for your needs.
3.
You’ll have a friend to talk to who probably
will probably be available to help you with stuff men know – car mechanics,
home repairs, protection etc.
Additionally, with more women opting for paid dating
arrangements, more men will be sexually satisfied and there will be fewer men
out there breaking hearts just to get some action. It’s a win-win
